Steps To Overcoming The Fear Of Asking Out Your Crush

You’ve been staring at her from a
distance for quite sometime and
you’re seemingly undecided
whethe
r or not to make the move
to approach her. Perhaps, she is
even someone you know and have
butterflies in your tummy whenever
you talk and relate with her and
you’ve not been able to break the
“Jinx” and tell her how you feel.
Every single guy on the face of the
earth including myself can relate to
this fear that comes along with
asking out a girl we are crushing on.
Be it the first time you would ask a
girl out or the fact that you want to
ask out some one you perceive as
beyond you which makes you
nervous, trembling and unstable, we
have come out with ideas that
would help reduce the effects of
your fear and guarantee a smooth
sail.
These ideas are not 100% foolproof
but they are designed in a way that
when applied, your nerves would be
steadied and you can inadvertently
build on the experience to conquer
future occurrences.
Never appear Desperate
This is actually very important as the
way you seem and appear to your
crush mostly determines what and
how her response would be like.
Thus, NEVER appear desperate or
treat getting her a do or die affair.
Seeming desperate sends the wrong
signals as the other party may
misconstrue your intentions as
sinister. More so, it is a major turn
off for girls when you rush them and
press too hard. Learn to take things
slowly and easily, which she most
probably would be attracted to.
Be respectful
As they say, “Respect is reciprocal “,
treat your crush the way you’d
expect to be treated. It is important
to watch the kind of words you say
that may appear disrespectful. Some
of these include calling out to her by
saying “Hey you”, “Baby” and
seemingly vulgar words. A high
percentage of ladies see it as a sign
of rudeness and disrespect to call
out to them that way. Thus, try to
be polite as much as possible while
also remembering to be nice and
respectful.
Spill the words in a quiet area
This is quite important given the fact
that good or bad, the memories of
you asking out your crush is one
that you want to make memorable.
Thus, ensure you choose a place that
is devoid of noise and people. Avoid
places where you are likely to be
interrupted intermittently and such
places include school cafeterias and
places either of you are well known.
Also, plan for a place with less noise
and people but make sure the place
is neither too busy nor private.
Talk Less
To ensure your words hit home,
ensure that you talk less. Avoid too
much talk as that can portray you as
been desperate. Ensure you make
your conversation short and precise
as this gives it more effect and
limits the chances of you stuttering
or saying something wrong. A good
way is to introduce yourself, ask for
her name and. Number, tell her
you’d call her and then walk away.
Remember not to rush things
It is important to remember that
being in a hurry will do you no good.
Learn to take things slow as rushing
things will definitely send the wrong
signals to her. She may think you
are after sex alone and probably
keep a distance from you. Try and
acquaint yourself with her before
you proceed to get intimate with
dates.
Know her problems
Every lady wants a guy that knows
and understands what they are
passing through. It is nice to get to
know what are problems are as this
would probably aid you in knowing
how to proceed with her. For
example, knowing that she just got
out of a bad relationship can help
you know what went wrong in her
previous relationship and apply
same in how you relate with her.
Finally, make sure you don’t talk too
much, make it short and precise and
if she says no; don’t worry, you
might get another chance with her
or with someone better.